Facebook isn't really suited to vulnerability. I'm not going to post details of my marriage Trials & Tribulations because my husband and lots of people he knows are on there. I get why people mostly post the good stuff, even if it fosters My Life Sucks Comparison Disorder
But I still like to hear someone bitching, or see pictures of kids being weirdos, or posts about politics and religion--I feel like I learn more about the person, and I feel facebookly closer to them. I have one friend who posts lots of pictures of his wife, and goes on about how much he loves her, but also posts honest feelings about his disappointments in life, with religion, with his work history etc. You can't fb-hate someone like that when they then post pictures of their happy marriage. You've connected to their vulnerability and like them all the more for it. They're human, they're like you.
Well, if we can't always do that on social media, we can at least do it in our fiction.
No comments:
Post a Comment